As a single person, you must have heard the argument that encourages people to throw away their dating checklist. In all fairness, some checklists are worth tearing up because they contain very unrealistic expectations.
However, you still need a checklist because it helps you accurately define what you want in a life partner. When you want to purchase a house, a car or even groceries, you have a list.
The choice of a life partner is even more serious. It is important that you define what you want so that you can recognize him or her when they come along. Your list will also to a large extent depend on who you are as an individual.
Being the right person is as important as finding the right person. Being the right person also helps you attract, choose and keep the right person.
Let these 5 key points serve as the framework for your checklist
- Be detailed and specific
Be detailed and specific about what you want. This is a matter of a lifetime. You want to be sure that you are being as thorough as possible.
- Intangible Attributes
Ensure that your checklist contains intangible attributes that do not change with time. While physical attributes and wealth are great, remember that what keeps a marriage are attributes that determine the quality of the individual.
- Your Deal breakers
Determine what the deal breakers in your checklist are. These are fundamental things that are important to your well-being that you are unwilling to compromise.
- The Pass mark
It is rare that you will find a person that meets your checklist 100%. The pass mark, I would recommend for a checklist is 80%. However, remember that the deal breakers should be included in the 80% bracket.
- Zero Comparison
Do not compare yourself with anyone when writing your checklist. Everyone is created differently and we all have characteristics and attributes that will make our lives easier and make us feel loved.
